an instance of apprehending the true nature of a thing, especially through intuitive understanding
Change: 1. to transform, be different, think differently than before
The Insightful Change process is a means of addressing stress, trauma, or unhealthy behaviors with a combination of innovative techniques. During stressful events, extreme trauma, or learned negative and unhealthy behavior, perceptions form a pattern of thinking and/or feelings are will remain with us for life, or until we change them. Over time these perceptual patterns of thoughts become increasingly ingrained in our minds, creating unhealthy behaviors that, if left unaddressed, become a habit. They color our lives. They are why we make the choices we do.
We can't change the past, but we can change our perceptions, thereby changing our lives. Insightful Change allows us to retrain our brains automatic thought process from negative / destructive perceptual thought patterns and behaviors with new, healthy ones, allowing for balanced well-being. By changing these ingrained destructive thought patterns we can literally change our minds and allow new perceptions, positive emotions and behaviors to permeate and redirect our life.
"When we focus our attention in specific ways, we create neural firing patterns that permit previously separated areas to become linked and integrated." - Daniel Siegel, MD - Mindsight - The New Science of Personal TransformationThe goal is progress, not perfection. Ninety percent of recovering addicts relapse at some point. That’s hardly surprising: The newly sober are bombarded with sensory cues that their brains associate with their addiction—the smell of beer, the sound of glasses clinking in a toast, familiar places and old friends. Change doesn’t always follow a straight line. The goal of a Insightful Change Coach is to assist people to overcome setbacks and move forward to the next win. Celebrating the reversal of a relapse can help desired behaviors regain momentum. Change is hard—particularly when the situation involves chemicals the body craves. Neuroscience has shown that people’s emotional responses to positive experiences create their own chemical reactions, releasing powerful neurotransmitters such as adrenalin, dopamine, and serotonin.
Successful change can be addictive in a positive way. Experiencing positive emotions such as: pride in accomplishment, gratefulness, appreciation, joy and happiness through letting go of negative memories and feelings and replacing them with healthy positive ones is worth the effort.
Techniques used in the Insightful Change Method
It is a combination of easily learned self-help techniques. We begin with honest and open conversation on an issue that is in the forefront of the person's mind. Exploring the impact that a trauma, or a series of negative experiences, has had in the person's life that keeps them stuck in a negative thought process and/or repeating negative behaviors that brings repeated stress.
We often know, or are aware that the imbalance in thought, feelings and behavior is there, but we are stuck in our ability to shift our focus, shift our behavior or redirecting our lives. Sometimes, these negative perceptions are not so obvious. When they are learned behaviors as a child they can be elusive and difficult to identify and change.
If you Google "positive affirmations" you will get "they don't work", and that is often true. However, there are times that they do. What accounts for the difference? They don't work when...
1. The affirmations are generic - meant for anyone 2. They go against an ingrained belief system that is the opposite of the affirmation, thereby creating stress 3. They are too general or vague 4. Just saying a positive affirmation by itself without getting to the root of the negative side - changes very little to nothing
This is where a coach skilled in helping you to reframe your negative perceptions comes in. You can learn you how to find and shift the negative perceptions that hold you back and replace them with healthy, balanced, positive perceptions unique to you and your personal experiences.
Negative, self-sabotaging belief systems are generally with us from childhood. Example: An abusive parent screams at us, slaps us in the face and tells us how stupid we are...well, guess what? Our self worth is shattered. Our confidence in ourselves to succeed diminishes with every abusive encounter. We begin to own it. The belief..."I'm stupid and can't do anything right"... becomes a part of our identity; and every time we fail that negative belief system is reinforced.
So two things can happen: We will not live up to our potential because we honestly believe that we are stupid, can't do anything right, we are not going to succeed, so why put forth any effort? Or, we can swing to the other extreme...Become an over-achiever, a demanding perfectionist, trying to prove that we ARE smart....all the while still feeling inside that we are not good enough which sabotages our ability truly enjoy the successes we do have. Either extreme is unhealthy.
According to childhood professionals, "The early childhood years are viewed to be crucial in the healthy development of our own belief systems which are strongly influenced by our early interactions with adults....such belief systems have a key impact on our feelings of self-worth or self-esteem as well as our self-efficacy" The authors of this study emphasize that what matters are "people's own perceptions." *
This changing our long-held belief's or perceptions isn't going to happen over-night. We didn't learn our ABC's over night. We learned them through practice and repetition. Therefore, to reverse the negative programming we experienced, we must repeat and practice the healthy, positive perception through repetition, generally 21 days. We will then begin to subconsciously behave in accord with our new healthy self image, often even without notice.
These steps, while simple, can create profound and lasting change
An Insightful Change Coach will begin with non-judgmental and open dialogue on the behavior you wish to change. We explore the origin of the negative feelings, thoughts and behaviors. Our muscles have memory, and respond to our feelings of love/hate; joy/sorrow; etc. They can give us simple feedback as to if we are on the right track or not.
Once the negative experience or trauma is isolated we "take the edge" off it's impact through open, honest dialogue combined with a light holding stress release points on the forehead. Stress is reduced when blood flow is increased in the frontal cortex, thereby releasing the back brain’s fight/flight reaction and facilitating clarity and conscious choice. Many modalities of body/mind work recognize this procedure as calming and effective for relieving stress.
This is where the listening skill of the trained Insightful Change Coach plays a crucial role in release of the stored trauma. Negative perceptions are identified and statements are then uniquely created to undo previously held beliefs. Since the word “feel” denotes experience, these statements or affirmations are made with the words “I no longer feel” or “I feel” preceding the perceptions that have been formulated. Since we usually trust the sound of our own voice, saying the words out loud helps to access the unconscious mind faster than merely thinking them silently to ourselves.
According to medical science visualization or meditation is associated with increased gray-matter density in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structures associated with self-awareness, compassion, and introspection.** Visualization, focusing or meditating on a new outcome based upon the unique-to-you positive affirmations also allows the mind to replace the old memories and to "see" and experience the benefits of new choices and new outcomes.
Based on the premise that it takes 21 days to create a new habit, sessions are rarely scheduled less than 3 weeks apart. It is during this interim that major changes begin to take place and the issues that seemed valid at the onset will have shifted. This is based upon the of application of one’s personally designed program of affirmations.
Dr. Siegal states in his book Mindsight, that “uncovering memory and meaning are never over until life is over”. While there are many ways to change one’s mind on a matter, learning the skills and tools of Insightful Change can serve us throughout life. The goal of an Insightful Change Coach is one of educating and empowering clients in self-mastery by using the tools of Insightful Change effectively for themselves. * Judit Szente, Empowering Young Children for Success in School and in LIfe. 2007. http://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10643-007-0162-y#/page-1 **http://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2011/01/eight-weeks-to-a-better-brain/
“The brain is open to change across the lifespan. It responds to the focus of attention and to the experiences we create intentionally.” Daniel J. Siegel, MD – Author Mindsight – The New Science of Personal Transformation
To schedule an Insightful Change coaching session, call 760-752-1903 Most sessions are approximately 90 minutes because sometimes deep introspection with results can not be rushed.